Have you gone into business with a friend? Are you sharing an office with a friend or family? It is often said the best way to lose a friend is to go into business with them.
I was in business with my spouse and we parted. We can consider the way we are treated unfair and pull the plug.
I am currently endeavouring to share an office with a person I met through a course I conducted. I am now having to learn to 'live with' this persons idiosyncratic behaviour, and he with mine.
I am a fast mover, I am usually organised and get things done, no nonsense stuff but I also have an awareness of the need to allow others to work at their own pace and endeavour to give them room, with difficulty I might add.
We are having an event this Friday night, an office Christmas party. My colleague has not yet moved in and has informed me he may not make the event. No, mind you I did pick the date and I have organised the invites.
It would be easy to go to the blame game and in fact I have been a little annoyed but have to remind myself that I have been pushing for this. If I pull back and look at the big picture, then, if I sit on my emotions all things will work out for good.
In any relationship we have to keep perspective and not give our emotions free range. I struggle with, and I am sure you do, with speaking to the offending party directly and not to others, bad move!
Yesterday I let slip 'he is so disorganised' to a friend of his and saw his reaction. The friend has a face that registers all and he did not appreciate my criticism. We do not win friends or customers when we criticise.
It is important that I keep cool and look to the big picture.
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